tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10425131.post115283000392376266..comments2023-10-30T08:39:20.774-05:00Comments on "Are You A Mexi-CAN Or A Mexi-CAN'T?": Case In Point: A Rant, Part 2Estherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04892778181543416624noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10425131.post-1153084433139256832006-07-16T16:13:00.000-05:002006-07-16T16:13:00.000-05:00KR: I said "specifically." They were both asked t...KR: I said "specifically." They were both asked to make parenting decisions together. <BR/><BR/>Anyway, perhaps I was a bit unjust. The article annoyed me a lot. It just bothered me that the things the guy said were considered unreasonable and he was asked to view them as unreasonable. Perhaps he could have found a better way to phrase them, but that does not make them unreasonable. I was ranting . . .<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the interesting response.Estherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04892778181543416624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10425131.post-1152918998803054742006-07-14T18:16:00.000-05:002006-07-14T18:16:00.000-05:00Esther, you aren't being quite fair, that her only...Esther, you aren't being quite fair, that her only required change was cutting off her mom. The therapist did tell them they had to make parenting decisions together--although I have to say she didn't dwell on it. (Like it's SO EASY to come up with parenting decisions together ... if it were easy, more people would do it better.)<BR/><BR/>I wish Therapist had also mentioned to Wife that she needed to actually listen to Husband's request for sandwiches rather than takeout ... such a simple step to take ... and how much better would he feel?<BR/><BR/>That Daily Temperature Reading was cheesy ... but if the communication is terribly broken, cheesy methods to get back on track are better than continuing further off track ... .<BR/><BR/>The sex: in my observation, having kids tends to expose and exaggerate whatever already exists in marriages. If they were already to the point of having "fights" about sex before the baby, they were pretty much doomed to have a worsening sex life after the birth, what with naturally heightened emotions, subconciously replaying childhood relational problems, and more weariness ...<BR/><BR/>That second article (xana ender's) was totally Sour Grapes. :P. Always love to see things that argue "The way you feel isn't legitimate."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10425131.post-1152891303403959852006-07-14T10:35:00.000-05:002006-07-14T10:35:00.000-05:00That article is pretty offensive. I want to know ...That article is pretty offensive. I want to know why it's so wrong to take on responsibility? Also, that part where it says that women should do what they "want." Well, what if a woman wants to get married and raise kids with her husband? It's considered evil to have such selfless desires and it drives me crazy. The article says that it's not about being "selfish." It is exactly that. As is the sum of feminism. If these pressures to go out and do what you want were not constantly exerted on women, maybe we would be happier in general. We're not allowed to raise a family without feeling that we're being deprived of something. It's like, the whole point of feminism was to give us choices, but it has taken away one very important choice in that process. What is so wrong about making a man happy when he's a guy who makes you happy? I mean, we should not go back to the 1950s or anything, but we could at least recognize the value in providing a good home for kids and maybe stop trying to do so much and be less hurried and more content with what we have.<BR/><BR/>I'm not ranting at you, just in general and in response to that article.Estherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04892778181543416624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10425131.post-1152885854698625282006-07-14T09:04:00.000-05:002006-07-14T09:04:00.000-05:00Same day, no joke was this article: http://msn.mat...Same day, no joke was this article: http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=6320&TrackingID=516311&BannerID=544657&menuid=7>1=8333<BR/><BR/>which talks about why it's better to be single that had me so angry I think I'll blog about it later today if I have time. here's an example "single people have better sex" (they found the one study that says that as opposed to all the ones that say the opposite) "single women are less depressed" (then make snide comments about how men are happier in marriage [wink wink nudge nudge that must be why marriage was instituted, to serve men I think is the insinuation]- but those poor married women are so depressed.) "you should be single because your body will be better because you're trying to keep it nice to look for a mate because you're unhappy with being single" (does this even make SENSE?!?!? Those poor married people - their bodies to go pot and of course your body is the most important aspect of you.... yuckXana Enderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816572211124953944noreply@blogger.com